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In this domain, the book Love Sick
is featured as a poetically written book that engages the reader in socioeconomic driven changes that take place in this perplexing
world of distraught. Most of the poems deal with couples that are on their way to breakup or are drifting away.
Because of the content of the book and the nature of being love sick, there are poems that reveal the disparity in moods where
love to hate, sad to anger, remorse, guilt and spirituality are feeling commonalities observed. In this book remorse
and guilt are included as emotional components because they are natural consequential byproducts of being love sick.
This poetry book also contains poems about death, loss, and grieving since these are factors in any breakup process.
Notes
from the author
Donny agrees there is much more at stake, today and it is more confusing today than yesterday
to preempt and prevent a couples’ drift. Strategies deployed decades ago for couples to stay – not stray
apart – but remain together are lost because the today version of a couple’s moral aptitude, values, and commitment
has changed and our social fabric that family’s need has become unwoven.Consequently, the author
feels there are more breakups and dysfunctional relationships on the rise.The question is what came first
and there is no answer to this.In hindsight, it is a cause and effect relationship, which tells us that
first there had to be a breakdown in family values and then an increase in relationship breakups later seen in offspring.Nonetheless, no longer is it “till death do us part”;
instead, till something better comes along; thus, they (couples)
do not need troubled times to cease and desist. Couples now can drift away and only say irreconcilable differences.
Donny maintains that trying to predict how many more relationshipbreakups
will happen now is like trying to predict the weather.He concurs, “There is no doubt that times
are tough.Gainful employment or lack of can cause relationship tension if not breakups.This
is obvious as we all observe unemployment staggering through the roof more so now than ever before causing financial anxiety
for us all. Therefore, some – not all, relationships that do revolve around the economy are up and down.”
Donny goes on to state the relevance of economy to the book, Love Sick is the economy’s current trend of being
up and down.While he opposes the notion relationship breakups strictly tied to the economy, he admits
that money problems do not strengthen relationships; rather, they have the potentiality of instigating breakups.” “But”
he insists, “Not every couple that starts to drift away stays apart. Granted times are tough, however, that is
more rhetorical than theoretical and does not point to more breakups for a particular reason. Donny believes
the old wise tale that poverty and tough times makes people bond is rubbish and more applicable to friends, brothers and sisters;
He suggests, “if true, it certainly is not seen in today’s couples.Couples today, all together,
an entirely different subject; they may breakup even in absence of financial anxiety, therefore, one cannot project; insert
that saying into that population”.
Donny simplifies his book, Love
Sick, “Love Sick is a book of poems that reflect the moods
observed in any relationship that has tension, and today there is much more than the norm for tension present”.
Donny puts forth, “Of course, with tension, moods can arise between couples if in a relationship. Subsequently,
it is unrealistic to write about breakups without projecting the disparity in moods that couples feel and experience. However,
it is this type of revealing, poetically-written, short-story poetry that makes Love
Sick different than other books.”He adds, “These poems are not your short three-stanza
poems. They are lengthier than a card and shorter than a book and the poems as well as the moods are unique since they
represent a variety of breakups, which encompasses many emotions. This disparity includes anger, love, remorse, guilt,
and aspects of spirituality.”
More about the Book from Donny C. Davied
Donny
brings up, “The Spiritual side of a relationship was chosen to be part of this book because when one experiences a loss
to someone, whether by death or breakup, a loss is a loss.Whether a couple, or a mother to a son, wherever
there is love, loss is certain; it is only a question of when an intervention is needed.”“Cynical, pessimistic, indeed, but true”, Donny interjects, “Life and death are between our two probable
certainties and we have no control over the latter.Similarly, breakups are not within our control.
It is during and after such breakups that there may be a need for an entity larger than people; a Supreme Being would be the
Politically Correct term – we can call it whatever but a human being, nevertheless, this larger than man/woman entity
will be called upon.[Hence], there is no doubt that some individuals/couples will need to lean on some
form of spirituality to help him or her get through this interruption of life which could either be loss of love, lost in
love, or death; finally, sick of love, hence the book title Love Sick.”
The author points to other scholars that declare financial
anxiety are the number one contributor to relationship tension.He contends but appends, “That would
be a truer statement before our economical fall.The change in the economy may result in more breakups
today that would compare to yesterday, because today, financial anxiety has taken on a new meaning. Many people have
lost jobs, lost homes, and need to switch careers.This predicament is seen more now than before.”
“However” he warns, “this does not mean the change in economy is
the prime reason.”“Some may feel their world has turned upside down”, Donny empathizes,
“and having everything taken away even with no one to blame there will be moods observed and if in a relationship,
those moods will translate over.”The author argues, though, that the same scholars that thought
money issues were the main cause for breakups have come up with a word to describe that relationship-transaction when financial
anxiety enters a couples home. “For instance”, Donny points to, “These same scholars/professionals call
this displaced anger as if there need be a word for this when rather, relationship tension due to financial anxiety may contribute
to but do not explain the increase in breakups.”Donny exclaims.“In addition, breakups
are not rare; one can find despair everywhere if one chooses to look for it.It has always been there;
the real question is why couples breakup when undergoing tough times.After all, during The Great Depression,
there were not more divorces observed than prior to that era and there was a war prevalent back then as well.”
Author reminisces, “Back then there were more reasons for couples to fall astray”.Donny offers,
“in retrospective comparison generations later, despite what the media suggests and other fear entities
want us to believe, we have not yet seen the re-emergence of The Great Depression and in sharp contrast, today, more so than
The Great Depression Era, unemployment is down, no stock, and bond crisis. In view of that, the inevitable conclusion
to draw is the unraveling of families, social fabric breaking apart is playing a larger role in relationship breakups than
one thought, and financial anxiety is not the main contributor.”
Donny supports his premise, “All one needs to do is compare the amount of meals taking place
with all family members present today versus yesterday and while this could be a result of the economy (more two-income parents),
it would take years to verify that. Moreover, two-income families may not always be out of necessity; it could be an
increase in materialistic demand to replenish the empty individuals and couples endure today and this in part could be due
to subtraction of spirituality or love for partner or love for thy self.It is no myth that some gain confidence
and increases in self-esteem through having an identity; that is a good reason to work.Another reason
for working or taking on extra hours at work is to pay necessity bills, as that is being responsible. However, when
couples work for goods and services not really needed they may feel that financial anxiety only because of these other optional
goods and services not really needed.”“Therefore”, Donny puts forward,
“there are still other contributing reasons for less newly married couples or otherwise together couples that remain
together. Fewer parents this era stay together through tough times for generations and resist divorce; more children
today than before are the byproduct of divorce or separation; and subsequently, then, if you will, almost inheritably, these
role-modeled behaviors have been integrated into the family’s offspring value systems where today we are seeing the
offspring copycatted values.” The author asks and offers, “The sixty four million dollar question is why
is the unraveling of families, social fabric breaking apart? One could say that through advanced technology –
our nations persistence of progress – teenagers having cars, having cell phones, and more independence at an earlier
age does not encourage the family’s values and desperately needed social fabric families need, this nation had one time,
plays a larger role.”
About the Book from Thought Provoking Poets
Love Sick appeals to relationship breakups and the feelings that come
attached. It addresses issues, concerns that couple’s really deal with. However, and only according to other
scholar’s theories, due to current events such as newly found financial anxiety – aproduct
from more unemployment, which equals less security in relationships have caused an up rise in relationship breakups more so
today than yesterday.Regardless of reason, though, every year individuals/couples have trouble that reach
a toxic level (Admittingly the author recognizes these frequencies have risen) where breakups seem to be the only answer and
that is what Love Sick writes about – couples that drift away – breakups along with their reasons. Some
people that experience breakups will find this book easy to relate. Conversely, everyone’s falling apart is unique
so there are varieties of poems that will reflect this exceptionality – both spiritual sides (dark spiritualities) included.
Breakups manifested from financial tension may increase, or decrease; why couples fall off course more
so now than before is anybody’s guess; simply put, it is impossible to include every scenario when couples drift apart
but when reading this book it will make sense to at least one individual.
A couple notes about this book: While the material in Love Sick dwells on aspects of adult relationships, it is
entirely fiction. Love Sick can mean different things; it can also be spelled differently (lovesick); however,
the author chooses to use love sick to relate to individuals/couples that are sickfrom or sick of love; alternatively, couples that have stayed together due to being love sick. The result
from becoming love sick therefore relates to not only breakups but also disturbing reasons for hanging on or making up.Donny speaks out, “To stay together for the children when research tells us that one happy parent is better than
two unhappy parents is not a good argument.Furthermore, breakups have increased where there are no children
involved.”More plausible, he feels for this increase in relationship breakups, is that “couples
are forming earlier; if children are born, they are at an earlier age; consequently, couples do not know each other as well
before tying the knot, so to speak.Generations ago when absence of dysfunction in couples
existed, and the average age for couples commencement was much later than today then staying together for the
children would have made more sense.Yet, still, this relationship breakup increase
is seen in couples that have no children as well.” The author believes that Love Sick’s theme is
consistent with his original premise, “more breakups now than before and for unknown reasons, consequently, with
these higher stats it should not surprise any one that some couples also stay together for the wrong reasons because their
reasons and average ages for getting together in the first place are wrong.”Donny inserts, “These
changed variables (reasons and average ages for couples to finish what they started) between generations can indicate other
observations.Today, less couples together where both families have met and approved; today, different
reasons to become a couple includes a child due soon; today, a couples journey starts with less gainful employment or academic
goals where this is not a variable contributable to today’s economy.”Donny points out that
these differences between generations hint toward a cultural breakdown in values that can only inevitably strike families
as a whole.Furthermore, this difference or deficit in family values lead to shortcuts in courting where
they are either less prevalent or altogether absent today and those short cuts if compared yesterday – in plural - to
today, can explain the increase in breakups more so than financial anxiety or the economy during any era.”
Author recaps, “I remember Neil Sedakas memorable song“, Breaking up is Hard to Do; I went with
my beloved sister to see him at a concert, and how true. Breaking up is hard to do and that is what this book of poems
speaks to… breaking up”Donny warns, “This is not an upbeat book of romance poems but
the short-story poetry illustrating the confusion, stress, anxiety, dedication and commitment it takes to either keep a couple
together or to breakup a couple will be revealed.Not sure how revealed, it depends on what the reader
is looking for.There is no magic potion in these poems and the book more reflects what couples should
not do.Nonetheless, sometimes reading about someone else’s relationship mistakes helps by reaffirming
the couple all that they do right; on the other hand, the poems could be a pleasant reminder on what to do.‘I
know when I read it, I mean, really read it, I appreciated the relationship I am in more”’.“On
the other hand”, the author admits, “my assertion could be viewed bias; nonetheless”, Donny incorporates,
“there are other factors to consider, here are some necessary traits a couple needs to survive: dedication and commitment,
and here are obstacles all couples will have to face some time:confusion, stress, and anxiety.Couples that have the dedication and commitment values survive because dedication and commitment overrules confusion,
stress, and anxiety.Dedication and commitment projects a relationship priority-value that can solve short
and long-term problems.It states, we are here for better or worse.With this
mindset, couples can overcome obstacles, be part of the solution and not the problem.However, couples
that have the former mindset (confusion, stress, anxiety) lack the relationship skills to endure because they do not posses
the above relationship securities. Lacking commitment and dedication also equates to lack of love and passion that many scholars
agree are deal makers or deal breakers for couples.” Donny comments, “This may be the only thing I can agree with
other scholar’s remarks or ideology”.
Closing notes from the author:
Towards the end, there are poems touching on spirituality. Many
including myself theorize that during any type of loss or break up some higher power is present guiding or protecting the
troubled individual or couple (we can only hope). Sometimes, however, the spiritual side can be dark at first and for
some.This is because some individuals or couples may find it easier to blame external events or entities.This part of the grieving process serves to protect the individual until he or she is ready to accept the new reality.What is more, all components of grieving including both sides of spirituality are normal; every one’s experience
is different; this is because their relationship and past is different, not better.In this book there
are different spiritual-side-poems reflecting that.Love Sick’s average poem length no longer
than a hallmark card but shorter than a novel, with content being somewhere between fiction and reality, it keeps one reading.
Many of the poems read like a short story but more intriguing. For people that experience breakups, this book may be
easy to relate. Conversely, because everyone’s falling apart is unique there is a variety of poems illustrating
this exceptionality. Years from now, we will understand the cause for up rise in breakups and find whether there was
a linkage between the economy, and relationship breakup increases.For now, it is less than insight.
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